Do you sometimes think your child might have a problem with anger?
Growing up comes with a lot of ups and downs and sometimes strong emotions seem to take over. It is difficult to parent an angry child or teen, and it can be disruptive to the family. Kids can learn, however, to manage their feelings — including anger — rather than letting their emotions control them.
Anger isn’t a bad thing — it’s how we express being angry that matters.
Anger is a very powerful emotion, but if your child doesn’t know how to handle being angry, it can make parenting a challenge, leading to arguments, physical fights, abuse, and even self-harm. But if a child or adolescent learns how to control their anger and stay calm, it can be a powerful skill that motivates them to make positive changes in their lives — changes that can improve relationships and the dynamics of the family.
Why is my child feel so angry?
Your child may struggle with anger, aggression, or emotional “tantrums” for a number of reasons. It may be caused from a loss like a divorce or death. Trauma might also make a child or teen struggle with emotions. Depression, anxiety, ADHD all could play a part in this challenge. And some kids just have a low frustration level and don’t have the tools to cope. Many believe that children that exhibit aggression often have exceptional leadership skills that need to be redirected into behaviors that are constructive.
CARE's Anger Management Program can help
CARE offers Peaceful Alternatives to Tough Situations (PATTS), a six week anger management course for kids and teens ages 9-18 who are divided into age appropriate groups. The course is designed to help youth increase positive and appropriate conflict resolution skills and reduce aggressive behavior. The PATTS course includes group discussions, role-playing, games, brainstorming, and other confidence-building activities.
After completing PATTS, your child or teen will have new coping skills that can improve their relationships within the family and at school. Your child will know how to identify and talk about his or her feelings, use conflict resolution techniques, identify mood patterns, learn how to say “no” to their peers, recognize anger cues, use calming techniques, forgive perceived wrongs, and make a plan for change.
CARE chose to offer PATTS because it is a nationally recognized, evidence-based program that works. Research showed that among young people who completed PATTS, principal referrals, suspensions, aggressive behavior and fights all decreased.